Child violence or “bullying” is a serious social problem that is unfortunately faced with many parents and children, as well as teachers and school principals. Mocking, insulting, belittling have become a very common occurrence in schools, whether racially, sexually or socially, and represent a serious problem in a technology-driven society, making bullying and abuse even more frequent, as well as threats through various social networks.
Violence encourages violence, so a child who abuses other children is probably just a victim of some form of domestic violence or abuse.
Most often, these are children of divorced parents or parents who have unhealthy and unsettled relationships based on constant yelling, swearing, insulting, and perhaps even physical abuse. In such situations, the child learns that such behavior is normal, even desirable, and often feels unloved, guilty of something, and frustrates his anger at other children, especially younger than himself.
Children who are more sensitive, shy, and emotionally unstable are the typical choice of young abusers whose fear is easy to “sniff”. Abused children can suffer severe physical and psychological consequences and become violent and destructive. Such children rarely open, and it is difficult for them to talk about what they are suffering, which can complicate the whole problem.
What can we do?
What can we actually do for our child if it is a victim of violence, and how to respond to child violence? First and foremost, everything comes from family. Our behavior is a reflection of a child’s behavior, and if we show him by example that it is okay to humiliate another or physically abuse him, which is what he will do. If the parents are in a bad relationship and are arguing with the child, it is important to stop and think about the child’s interest, otherwise, the things can be solved by police and the welfare center, where they will do their best for the child’s well-being. Such children need the help of psychologists or psychiatrists with whom they can easily find solutions to their frustration and anger.
If, however, you find yourself in a situation where your child is the victim of abuse, it is most important to respond quickly. Maybe your child is withdrawn, behaves strangely, doesn’t leave the house much, avoids hanging and talking, or you may have noticed suspicious bruises on the body. You must first be supportive of your child and earn his trust to open up to you and tell you what is happening to him and who is abusing him. Every child wants to feel safe and protected. One option is to go and talk to a family of the abuser, finding a possible solution. If that is not enough, go to school and ask for a meeting with the teachers and the school principal, if the situation does not improve, enroll the child in another school. It should be pointed out to the child that they are not guilty of what is happening to them and that such behavior is never acceptable or normal. Build him with confidence and support, and point out to him all his virtues and good sides.
Written by: Jessica Ramirez